Top Relationship Tips For Newlyweds
The perfect proposal. An unforgettable wedding day.
A picture-perfect celebration of your love.
It was these magical moments that blossomed from a first kiss into a lifetime of love. But then, reality comes crashing down on your fairy-tale. No matter how wonderful your relationship was or your fairy-tale wedding, marriage comes with its own set of challenges. It is common that couples underestimate the shift that occurs once the wedding bells stop ringing and the excitement fades. Anania Jewellers experiences the lead-up to our client’s engagement and we would love to support the journey of your marriage. We have interviewed newly and lifelong married couples to find out how you can live a happy, fulfilling marriage for the long-term.
Bree Caggiati & Andrew Webber
Newlyweds – 1 year
“Being married is the most fun you’ll ever have if you choose that.” – Bree
What is love to you?
I think it’s important not to think of your husband as the one who completes you, that everything is like a movie without any effort. It’s not! Being married is the most fun you’ll ever have but only if you choose that! I think love is about choosing. Choosing to uplift, encourage, help, and sometimes sacrifice your own desires for one person every day. It’s definitely a choice, but that doesn’t mean it’s not really fun and full of gooey feelings too!
What can you do to prevent an argument from boiling over?
For us, actually trying to understand the other person, why they do the things they do or think the way they do, really helps to diffuse any fighting. Sometimes you have to just give up your pride about being right and just see the other person’s point of view. I always ask myself ‘what are you gaining from this?’ which helps me to talk about my feelings rather than just getting mad. It’s so important to share what you’re feeling if the other person is hurting you or annoying you – but you don’t have to be mean about it!
Jasmine & Daniel Bonadies
Building a life together – 2 years
“Always remind yourself why you fell in love with your partner, whether it was their sense of humour or ambition.” – Jasmine
How can a marriage work best?
It is important that you feel strong and fulfilled as an individual so this can be reflected onto your relationship. Take time for yourself to do what you love, what makes you happy and gives you meaning. Also, do this with your partner – enjoy activities together.
Most marriages go through an adjustment period, what is your advice for this time?
Be patient. Marriage definitely has its adjustments – you both might grow together at different times and in different ways. If you continue to be patient and work through things together, you will make it last.
What is the best way to support your partner?
Take time to put yourself in your partner’s shoes before judging. You want to avoid unnecessary criticism or negativity as much as you can. Give them your time when they need it and be there when times get tough. Support is one of the most important parts of a strong marriage – without it, everything can easily fall apart.
Carolyn & Steve Gray
Accomplishment – 37 years
What have you learnt during your marriage?
Laughter…….You must always try to laugh through the good and bad times, and not take life too seriously, because when the sun comes out tomorrow, everything looks better and there is always a solution, you can work anything out together.
How can you have a happy, successful marriage in the long-term?
Be patient, be loving, be giving and above all be grateful every day for everything you have in your life. If you are thankful for your partner and all what you have and you can smile, you will find that your days are mostly joyous. Marriage is a journey, you have to try to make everyday a little bit special and take time to sit down and plan your voyage with your partner. Life can be hard, but knowing you have someone there that always has your back and can give you a big hug when you need it is the best feeling in the world.
What was your proposal story?
We started dating the week Elvis Presley died, August 1977, Steve was serving in the army at the time and was due to go to the Sudan in October, while he was away he would write to me every day, I still have all those letters. He came back on leave just before my birthday in February 1978 and took me to Hatton Garden in London to choose a ring, how excited and proud was I. Unfortunately, the week Princess Diana died, I took my four boys to lay flowers at Buckingham Palace and our house was burgled and my precious ring was stolen. When you have children, you have so many other priorities, that replacing my ring at that time wasn’t an option. My beautiful husband surprised me with a new engagement ring after we moved to Australia and I cherish it every day.
How can a marriage work best?
Talking to each other is the key – you have to share everything, all the good and bad times, good ideas, bad ideas, the laughter and the sadness, and be passionate and grateful.
Marian & Stuart wallace
Marriage through the ages – 60 Years
If you want to know about love, ask someone with a lifetime of experience.
“A commitment to one another is always the touchstone.” – Marian
Stuart and I were very young, but we were in love. I had this indescribable feeling that we were meant to be. I still remember it today – Stuart was so handsome, tall and had hair like Clint Eastwood. He was my first and last love, but marriage can be hard and without a lot of work it can easily fall apart. I married someone who enjoys the things that I enjoy and wanted the things that I wanted in life. That’s important; finding someone that shares your values, interests and has a similar outlook on life.
60 years from the day we said I DO, many things have changed, but one thing remains and that’s Stuart. A commitment to one another is always the touchstone.
What is your top tip for a happy, fulfilling and lasting marriage?
I have told my children, and I will continue to tell my grandchildren; marry your best friend. Find someone that you can love, laugh and cry with over and over again.
“Marian and I have been through a lot, but we have been through it together. We have a commitment to be with each other until the end.” – Stuart
What can you do to improve arguing?
We argue, but we also resolve. Never go to bed angry! Get angry and let them know how you are feeling, then resolve the issue and leave it to rest. Avoid issues from the past. Life is too short to be angry.
What is love to you?
Love is looking back at my life and not regretting one single moment with Stuart. Love is our 3 children and 11 grandchildren. Love is looking at your partner, even when you’re mad and finding it hard not to be happy.
Create couples rituals
Share a moment in your day that bonds the two of you. Make it something simple and make it something that happens regularly, such as a morning coffee together or a date night.
Do a project together
Begin a project together and stick to it until the end. Connect with one another by building a garden, painting the house, or cooking a signature meal. Anything that will create an end result you’ll both be proud of. There is something incredibly rewarding about completing a project and achieving a happy outcome together.
Be active and talk
If you need to discuss a tough subject, do it during an activity. Walking and hiking are great ways to clear your mind and get everything off your chest. Directing your frustration around a subject into something active encourages moving forward towards a resolution. Taking on a challenge together is often accredited to improving the bond between couples.
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